When you and your spouse were talking about marriage before becoming engaged, did you consider your marriage to be disposable? Did you have divorce in the back of your mind as an “escape clause”? Why? If you were so unsure of marriage, why get married in the first place? God designed marriage to be a life-long commitment.
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[a] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[b] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
The above verses are what God’s idea of marriage is. At the heart of His design for marriage is companionship and intimacy.
Joel and I said from day one that divorce was never an option for us. The only way that our marriage would end would be if/when one of us dies. Morbid, I know, but that is how valuable our marriage is to us. We promised not to put ourselves or our kids through a divorce. We have seen the damage that a divorce can cause in families. Joel was a child when his mom went through a divorce. This forced him to grow up and mature faster than a child should have to. Here’s the important part of his experience thought, this fueled his desire to make his future marriage work.
Folks, keep your lines of communication open. Don’t even think about talking about divorce. God gave you a voice, use it to speak when you are not happy or do not agree with something the other person is doing. Pray together. Pray for the strength to focus on God and each other. Grow together spiritually. Be intimate. Learn from the past. Look to the future together. Build each other up instead of tearing each other down. See a trend? Our practices for our marriage is intertwined with each attribute. I pray that you value your marriage and look forward to the future with your spouse.